Don’t wear a second mask
Why are you being someone you are not?
This is something I’ve been thinking about since Covid got here but that’s not the mask I’m talking about. When I am with a group of friends from when I was 15, I’m not the same person I am when I’m with a different group.
Some call that a “Social Mask”. I call it “Being Fake to Yourself”.
You see, when I started working, the people at the office where never really fond of my somewhat arrogant self. I know I come across as cocky but that’s just who I am. I believe in myself because… If I don’t, who will?
Should I change who I am for someone who doesn’t care about who I truly am?
As a personal finance advocate, I always hear: “You buy stuff you don’t need with money you don’t have for people you don’t like”.
This all makes sense but why don’t we talk about the personal development part of this story?
Fuck whoever tells me I should change who I am.
Honestly, I do not care if you find me “boastful” or “cocky”. I am who I am and I am not going to stop being proud of what I know just because you find it arrogant.
If you really think about, what do you gain if you change who you are because that person told you should?
Respect? Fuck that, I don’t respect someone who isn’t true to themselves as individuals.
Relationships? What does a relationship even matter if you have to be someone you are not for 1 person to accept you?
Frustration? Bingpot, that’s exactly it. What? You didn’t think changing your whole personality would come without repercussions, right?
You will become a frustrated little fella because you decided to fake yourself into this relationship. I don’t care if it was for a top model or if it was just for a parent.
Do. Not. Change. Who. You. Are.
Okay maybe change a few things…
You know that breakup cliché? “It’s not you, it’s me”? Well… Maybe it is you. What? If other people aren’t perfect, why should we be? Even with your nose so close to your mouth, you probably can’t tell when you have bad breath. The same applies to our flaws. We can’t really see them as easily as other can.
What I am saying is… Listen to them a bit. Maybe you are in the wrong and maybe you should change some things.
When you do find those qualities you believe you should change to improve yourself, stick to them. Don’t go running around the city changing that quality every time you meet someone know because you can’t please everybody.
